This afternoon I gave myself a challenge:
To come up with 34 lessons I’ve learnt in my 34 years on this fine planet of ours.
It took me a few hours, but succeeded and found it a beautiful experience – one that made me smile and almost shed a tear.
So here are my 34 Lessons from 34 Years:
Before you can truly love someone, you need to firstly love yourself.
Money isn’t everything. Seriously. And neither is climbing the corporate ladder.
Don’t try and keep up with the boys when drinking. It may seem cool at the time, but it can result in a hell of a lot of damage – both to your body and to your reputation.
4. The Naysayers
There will always be someone who will try to pull you down. Accept it, and keep on moving on.
5. Your Body
R – E – S – P – E – C – T your body. It’s the only one you will ever have. Talk nicely to it.
6. Love will find you
When you stop looking for love you it will find you.
Music really is good for the soul.
Friends come and go, and that’s okay. You’ll make many more in your lifetime, and those that you are left with will be your REAL friends.
Grief can be debilitating, and it wot completely go away – but it will ease.
Finding ones passion is hard, but once you find it – wow! So keep searching and trying things, because what is a life worth living if you aren’t passionate about it!
11. Death and Weddings
Death brings out the good and bad in people, as does weddings.
Difference and diversity are wonderful things that make the world we live in a truly amazing place. Embrace your differences, and those of others around you.
Unfortunately, even in this day and age, women still need to work harder than men to gain respect, a higher position and wages.
14. Just Say No!
It IS okay to say no – because you aren’t interested, because something compromises your values, because you are really busy, because you are tired, or just because. You don’t need a reason!
15. Be a Bitch
If you are too nice you’re a pushover, if you push back you’re a bitch…apparently. These days I choose to be the later (although I’m apparently still too nice, god dammit!).
A dog is your best friend.
Time brings with it knowledge which in turn makes you wiser.
18. The World is Full of Beauty
There is beauty all around us – all you need to do is open your eyes and truly see.
We all make them. Suck it up, learn from them, and move on.
‘Mistakes are a fact of life. It is the response to the error that counts.’ – Nikki Giovanni, American poet, activist and author
20. Find Your Voice
Your opinion does count for something. Remember that – always.
Don’t judge your success by others interpretations of the word.
Find a doctor you feel comfortable with and ensure that you get regular check ups. Be honest with them, but also question them, and if you feel you need to, seek a second – or third – opinion..
23. A Woman in her 30′s
The 30′s – for a woman – brings with it a feeling of comfort in your own skin (once you get over the whole 30 thing that is).
Don’t let anyone crush your dreams. People will try. That is a guarantee.
Don’t wish your life away wishing you were older, because you will spend the later part of your life wishing you were younger and wondering where the years went.
26. All Sorts
People come in all shapes and sizes. No one is perfect – even the supermodels.
A good film is like a fine wine. Get your butt out and go to the cinema, eat popcorn, and immerse yourself in a great movie every now and then.
28. The Good Stuff is Free
It’s true what they say – the good things in life are free. I know that every time I play with my dog or I get a cuddle from my niece.
Spend time with your Grandparents…and stop making excuses. Your time with them is precious, and no one will love you in the way that they do. This may be my one and only regret.
One day you will need to exercise. Just try to find something that suits you, that is gentle on your mind, body and soul, and pay no attention to fads. I find yoga awesome!
The ‘honeymoon’ period of any relationship fades…but sometimes you are left with something amazing. Other times – not.
32. Just Walk
It is okay to walk away, from anything. At least you tried.
Learn to let go of hatred. It turns you bitter. This is one of the best things I have ever done.
Allow yourself to be happy, whatever your situation.
What do you think?
What are your lessons learned?