This afternoon I gave myself a challenge: To think of the last 34 years of my life and find 34 lessons I have learnt.
It took me a few hours, but I did it, and it was a beautiful experience – one that made me smile and almost shed a tear.
Here are 34 things I’ve learnt in 34 years:
- Before you can truly love someone else, you need to like yourself.
- Money seriously isn’t everything. And neither is climbing the corporate ladder.
- Don’t try and keep up with the boys when drinking.
- There will always be someone who will try to pull you down.
- Respect your body. It’s the only one you will ever have.
- When you stop looking for love you will find it.
- Music is good for the soul.
- Friends come and go, and that’s okay as you’ll make many more in your lifetime.
- Grief can be debilitating, but it will ease.
- Finding ones passion is hard, but once you find it – wow!
- Death brings out the good and bad in people, as does weddings.
- Difference and diversity are wonderful things that make the world we live in a truly amazing place.
- Unfortunately, even in 2012, women still need to work harder than men to gain respect in the workplace.
- It is okay to say no.
- If you are too nice you’re a pushover, if you push back you’re a bitch…apparently. These days I choose to be the later (although I’m apparently still too nice, god dammit!).
- A dog can be a woman’s best friend.
- Knowledge makes you wiser.
- There is beauty all around us – all you need to do is open your eyes.
- ‘Mistakes are a fact of life. It is the response to the error that counts.’ – Nikki Giovanni, American poet, activist and author
- Your opinion does count for something.
- Don’t judge your success by others interpretations of the word.
- Find a doctor you feel comfortable with and ensure that you get regular check ups. Be honest with them, but also question them.
- The 30′s – for a woman – brings with it a feeling of comfort in your own skin (once you get over the whole 30 thing that is).
- Don’t let anyone crush your dreams – because people will try.
- Don’t wish your life away wishing you were older, because you will spend the later part of your life wishing you were younger and wondering where the years went.
- People come in all shapes and sizes. No one is perfect – even the supermodels.
- A good film is like a fine wine.
- It’s true what they say – the good things in life are free. I know that every time I play with my dog or I get a cuddle from my niece.
- Spend time with your Grandparents…and stop making excuses. Your time with them is precious, and no one will love you in the way that they do. This may be my one and only regret.
- One day you will need to exercise. Just try to find something that suits you.
- The ‘honeymoon’ period of any relationship fades…but sometimes you are left with something amazing. Other times – not.
- It is okay to walk away.
- Learn to let go of hatred. It turns you bitter.
- Let yourself be happy.
What do you think?
Why not give it a go – no matter how old you are?
Pretty good insights. Not sure I have the time to come up with 30 of my own, but I should try.
You should – even if you work on it over a week!
I love your list! I am 46 so it will take me a little longer, however I will set some time aside to compile my list too!
Awesome stuff. Let me know if you post it! I’d love to read others lists : )
Oh Janine! How you make me cry
Some of the things do come with age and the more we move on in life, the more we learn. Sometimes the harsh way, sometimes the easy way but the victorious is the one who made it through and came out!
I will definitely be doing a same thing…love the idea!
I can’t wait to read it Hajra! And I really didn’t make you cry right?
Oh, you absolutely did! I could feel my moist eyes…
And it was all because of the huge realization that dawns after reading posts of yours!
Aw – big hugs your way!
Not sure I’m up to listing 63, but I’ll try.
What will you add to your list this year?
Hmmm I have a few things already! Go with your gut, don’t only do things to make others happy, take time out to smell the roses – but I’ve really already learn’t those things. It’s too soon to share with you, but over the next few months I am sure to learn things from certain changes I am making to my life – apart from those I have shared previously – so we will see!
I agree with 2, 4, 5, 9, 13, 14, 19, 22, 25, 29 and 32.
In response to 11 and 15, I have to say…unfortunately YES.
I’ll have a go for my 30th in 16 months time.
Ah so we have to wait until then to read it!
What a list! Can’t wait to see what you add next year
Thanks Marie. We will see. Hopefully it’s all positive!
Great list and great insights Janine! Thanks so much for sharing. 46 is on the horizon for me, just a few short days away. I wonder if I can up with 46 lessons! I’m sure I can. I may have to give it ago
Happy birthday Lalia
I hope you have an amazing day. Please do try and write the list!
Don’t you just love all this wisdom at 34? Pretty dang awesome! (#15 gave me a chuckle!)
Hehe I am oh so wise occasionally, until my brain goes out the window (which happens a lot).
What’s next for your Janine? What will be the 35th thing that you have learned? I can’t wait to read it.
As for me, I have learned that chocolate cures most of my headaches…
I always love learning from others’ wisdom and your post is packed with wise words, Janine! =) My favorites are: “There’s beauty all around us” and “Don’t judge success by others’ interpretation of the word.” Those are really meaningful to me at this point in my life. I also really appreciated all you said about body and exercise. I want to be more active this year, but I definitely want it to be for the right reasons!
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Beautiful list! Gives me idea on what to post on my birthday
I still have plenty of time since it’s still 2 months away. yay!!!
Oooo good luck with it. Do let me know when you post it!
What a great post, Janine! I am sur3 it will take me a while, I am 47 so I’d better get started!! It is amazing what we learn a life time if we want to.. And it is amazing what we do accomplish even if we dont ‘think we have done so much.. Live without regrets..
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