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Developing an attitude of gratitude


Developing an attitude of gratitude


For most of my life I’ve lived under a dark cloud of depression and in the grips of anxiety. It’s only been within the last few years where I’ve been able to flip my thinking around. It hasn’t been easy but the hard work paid off and has resulted in an amazing shift, one that exceeded any expectations, and sure, the anxiety is still there, but each and every day I am incredibly grateful for my life. I’m even grateful for the good old depression!

In the wise words of Brian Tracy;

“Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.”

With a shift in my attitude, my life has changed.

Instead of seeing sadness, frustration and negativity everywhere, now I choose to see the lighter side of life. The opportunities, the beauty, and the love.

Professor Robert Emmons, a professor of psychology at the University of California and one of the foremost authorities on the topic of gratitude in North America, indicates that gratitude is not merely a positive emotion; it also improves your health if cultivated. As a result, he claims that people who cultivate an attitude of gratitude will experience significant improvements in their life, ranging from relationships through to health and the ability to deal with tough times.

One of the things I use is a gratitude journal whereby I list the three things I am grateful for each day. Once upon a time this would have been really challenging for me, but these days its as easy as brushing my teeth – it’s natural.

Here’s my gratitude challenge to you.

Stop what you are doing this minute and answer this question:

What are you grateful for right now?

The intent is for this to be – or become – easy, so don’t think too much about it! Grab yourself a piece of paper and quickly write down the first three things that jump into your mind. It could be something as simple as a good coffee in the morning, through to your friends or an amazing sunset.

How easy is that!

My final challenge to you is to make it your mission to take five minutes out of every day to think about what you are grateful for on that very day.

And if you’re game, why not share you gratitude list with me in the comments below. I look forward to reading you!

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.” – Melody Beattie


For added inspiration, check out some of my gratitude lists:

A Touch of Gratitude

10 Things I am Thankful for This Week

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  • Leanne@crestingthehill
    November 6, 2015 at 5:54 pm

    this is a lesson I’ve learned over the last couple of years – gratitude changes your focus and reminds you about how good life really is. It puts the sucky bits into perspective.

    • Janine Ripper
      November 26, 2015 at 5:50 pm

      That is so true Leanne! Thanks for swinging by!

  • Mary
    November 7, 2015 at 12:58 pm

    Being thankful is so important.I really like your “three things” idea. I’m so grateful for my family, the neighborhood where I live, my health, being warm and not having to go to bed hungry like so many in the world today. I could go on… 🙂

    • Janine Ripper
      November 26, 2015 at 5:51 pm

      I love how you rattled off more than 3 things. Go you!

  • Mackenzie Glanville
    November 7, 2015 at 5:06 pm

    I’ve been taking part in the #100HappyDays challenge on Facebook and it helps me to make a conscious effort to take the time to write and share what I’m grateful for and happy about. It is not about telling other pole it’s just to make me stick to it.

    I love this post Janine! OK first 3 things that come to mind right now are. 1: Meeting you and the support you’ve given me/lessons you’ve taught me. 2: When my kids are tucked up safely in bed and I get rest. 3: Living in a country where I have freedoms and beauty around me.

    • Janine Ripper
      November 26, 2015 at 5:52 pm

      I’ve been watching you do it and thought I’d do it too but then couldn’t commit!

      Love your 3 items and you always know how to boost my confidence. Its been a pleasure meeting you and receiving support from you also. xx

  • Vinitha
    November 7, 2015 at 11:41 pm

    Lovely post, Janine! So much truth in here. Staying grateful and choosing to see the positive sides will definitely help in creating a happier self. I am experiencing the same, like you I write down 3 things I am grateful for every day on my gratitude journal.This moment I am grateful for 1. FRIENDS on TV 2. my kid and his neverending questions 3. Tea. 🙂

    • Janine Ripper
      November 26, 2015 at 5:53 pm

      That’s so beautiful, Vinitha. I love finding beauty and joy in the little things.

  • Sue
    November 8, 2015 at 4:16 pm

    You do feel so much better when you concentrate on what you do have in life. We all have our down times but I love your idea of writing each day what you are grateful for. I’m grateful that my husband loves me unconditionally. I’m grateful for a healthy and loving family, I’m grateful each Tuesday for quality time with my gorgeous grandson #FridaysReflection

    • Janine Ripper
      November 26, 2015 at 5:53 pm

      Hey Sue, sending you a huge hug. Thanks for sharing what you are grateful for. It warmed my heart. xx

  • Kyles @ Pickles and Pords
    November 8, 2015 at 4:45 pm

    This is such an excellent post. Gratitude is so vital and powerful. At the moment I’m grateful for: 1). Having just enjoyed a technology free weekend away at the beach. 2). The truly wonderful people I got to spend proper quality time with this weekend. 3). The fact that aI have been prompted to spend time reflecting on that joy and being grateful for it. Thanks for sharing and hosting #fridayreflections

    • Janine Ripper
      November 26, 2015 at 5:55 pm

      Hey Kyles, Nice to meet you and thanks for joining us! Congrats on having a tech-free weekend! So hard to do but sooo worthwhile! I look forward to reading more from you. xx

  • Parul
    November 9, 2015 at 5:24 pm

    Great lesson for the day! I practice being grateful and I am also taking up the #100happydays challenge. It helps me look at the bright side of things.

    Great post!

    • Janine Ripper
      November 26, 2015 at 5:54 pm

      I’ve loved seeing your daily posts for the challenge, Parul!

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    June 20, 2017 at 7:42 am

    Wow! I just created a Pinterest board called “Gratitude is the attitude” and then came across your blog post with the exact same reasons of why I’m implementing more gratitude into my life! Talk about synchronicity! I love the way that you wrote abut HOW you practice gratitude. Super helpful! Great post 🙂

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  • Millie French
    July 6, 2017 at 1:32 pm

    I love this post Janine! You can never go wrong with practicing gratitude! I have only started to consciously think and write down things I’m grateful for and it has definitely helped with lifting my mood! LOVE LOVE LOVE that quote – It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Thanks for sharing!


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