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Is the Fear of Failure Holding You Back?

Is the Fear of Failure Holding You Back?

 

When faced with periods of uncertainty, something new, and change, it’s natural to feel a little anxious or even scared.

I know I do! Sweaty palms, increased heart rate, dry mouth, scattered thoughts and sleepless nights, nausea, butterflies or even an upset stomach. When I’m at my worst I suffer the lot. And I can’t tell you the number of times my fear of failure has held me back, preventing me from taking that awesome opportunity, trying something new, or stepping out of my comfort zone.

This is what psychiatrists call the fight or flight response;

The fight-or-flight response, also known as the acute stress response, refers to a physiological reaction that occurs in the presence of something that is terrifying, either mentally or physically. The response is triggered by the release of hormones that prepare your body to either stay and deal with a threat or to run away to safety. – Psychology.about.com

The most successful people in the world will tell you that at some point in their lives they thought they were going to fail and that they may even have been afraid of failure. They will also tell you that it took persistence, hard work, failure, and perhaps a dash of courage and stubbornness to get them to where they are today.

Just look at J. K. Rowling, whom at one stage was a broke single mother on welfare who suffered from depression and had been rejected by 12 publishers before finally breaking through with the Harry Potter book series, and what a book series that was! She persisted when she could have easily thrown in the town and given up but instead she persevered:

I was set free because my greatest fear had been realised, and I was still alive, and I still had a daughter whom I adored, and I had an old typewriter and a big idea. And so rock bottom became a solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life. 

– J. K. Rowling

 

Stepping outside of your comfort zone will always feel a little scary, but as you tackle your fears and anxiety, you will realise that you are so much braver and stronger than you thought!

Think of something that is making you feel anxious or is scaring you. Can you imagine yourself overcoming whatever it is?

Actually visualise yourself doing it. What do you see?

Okay, now tune in to your senses.

  • What are you doing?
  • How does success taste?
  • What does it feel like?
  • What are people saying about you? What are you saying?
  • What are you thinking?
  • And what else can you do?

Now take that visualisation and use it to make a decision about your next step. What can you do to move yourself one step in that direction? Once you have determined WHAT that is, it’s time to take action!

And remember;

Anyone who has ever achieved greatness has gone through a struggle, pain or hardship. The reason they have become a success is because they have pushed through and come out the other side on top!

It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all, in which case you fail by default.

– J. K. Rowling

Oh and remember to breathe…breathing is a really good thing!

It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all, in which case you fail by default.


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  • RONJA
    February 4, 2016 at 10:41 pm

    What a great post! Love it! I’ve had a BIG moment of failure more than a year ago, when I didn’t pass one of my finals – something I thought would never happen to me. Turns out, this “failure” was one of the greatest things that has ever happened to me. It set me free! To follow my passion and start pursuing my dreams.
    So I learned that failure doesn’t always has to be a bad thing, it can turn into quite a powerful source of energy, inspiration and positivity.
    xx Ronja
    http://www.sothisiswhat.com
    { CREATE THE LIFE YOU LOVE }

    • Janine Ripper
      February 11, 2016 at 6:58 pm

      That is so very very true. Thanks for sharing a bit of your story Ronja. I’m so glad you learned from it and bounced back with a vengeance! Much love xx

  • Justine de Jonge
    February 8, 2016 at 2:27 pm

    Thank you for your post, Janine. Such a wonderful one as always. I loved it. Putting off something is the worst feeling, though it feels so motivating once it’s done. I love your new site, too. So good! 😀 xxx

    • Janine Ripper
      February 11, 2016 at 6:53 pm

      Thanks so much Justine! I hope you are keeping well 🙂 Glad you liked the post and go something from it xx

  • Marie
    February 9, 2016 at 6:01 am

    I think I might actually be a bit comfy with failure, like we’re old dysfunctional friends.

  • Who Let the Mum Out?
    February 25, 2016 at 8:43 am

    Great post! We all fail.. but it usually just pushes us to try harder and succeed. #ABitofEverything

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