If you follow me on Facebook and Instagram, you’d be aware that I tend to share doses of motivation, guidance and inspiration.
Here are a couple of my favourite pieces of motivation, guidance and inspiration I’ve pulled together into one lovely blog post. I hope there’s something that strikes a chord with you.
Unexpected kindness is the best type of kindness, be it giving or receiving. Whether it’s a smile at a stranger, a helping hand, a donation, kind word, or something else, it is a beautiful thing.
I don’t have much to give as in money but have stepped out recently, giving away books to people in need. Aside from hopefully helping people in some way, it feels good on the inside to give and expect nothing in return. Call me the crazy book lady.
When was the last time you gave a bit of unexpected kindness?
Be mindful in whatever it is you do
Mindfulness has helped me manage my anxiety. It has helped me break the fight or flight response my body had become so accustomed to. It has also helped me to release the shame I had carried around – the shame associated with having a mental illness. I can proudly say that I am no longer ashamed. I am no longer ashamed of having had depression and am no longer ashamed of who I am. I am proud of what I have come through as it has made me the person I am today!
Being an introvert ‘ain’t easy
It took me a very long time to acknowledge that being an introvert was okay, and on reading Quiet by Susan Cain really helped to solidify self-acceptance and a new way of living. I still struggle with my introvert self more than I like to admit BUT I make it my mission to look after myself more these days, especially scheduling in regular me-time to recharge the batteries which often run dry. If you are an introvert also, make sure you do yourself a favour and check out Quiet Revolution;
To create a world where introverts are celebrated for their powerful contributions and, more importantly, for who they are. And where everyone’s quiet strength—no matter what their personality type—is validated.
Never deny your struggles
Never deny your struggles as they are an important part of your story.
I could easily hate on my depression and anxiety, and although I’ve had some pretty shitty times I do not deny any of it anymore. In fact, I own it and I don’t regret or wish I hadn’t had it because it has made me who I am today and given me gifts I can give back to others.
Life takes a lot of courage
Courage to push through the hard times, the failures, the hiccups. Courage to push forward when we succeed and not running in the other direction. Courage to change or to stay as we are when others want us to change.
We all have it. We just need a reminder every now and again to look within as we all have the courage needed to get through anything.
Travel your heart out
Ah travel, what can I say. There are so many beautiful people in the world. So many traditions and cultures to discover. So many conversations to be had.
I’ll be the first to admit that I’ve landed myself in some shocking situations and met some horrible people in my travels (worked in a pub once, had to escape over the roof from a mad man, true story), but on the flip side I’ve met so many more lovely people who have opened their homes, hearts and families to me, and some who even saved me. My heart will forever be grateful to these people.
Learn to say no
Learning to say no without having to explain why is one of the best things you can ever do, especially for those of us who are PEOPLE PLEASERS!
Use your personal values as your ‘guiding light’ to make decisions in your life. If something isn’t sitting right with you then sit down and think about WHY you’re feeling that way. Is it because you ate something dodgy, or is it because your stomach is sending you some strong warning signals?!
You are enough, just as you are
Here’s something you need to remember, always. You are enough. Learn to accept and love yourself because yes, you ARE enough just as you are. As an incredibly flawed human being, I accept that I am enough and that is okay. In fact, it is brilliant. It is liberating. This has helped me to accept my ability as a writer, whilst embracing my notable grammatical flaws and at times insufficient grasp of the English language. In the end, we are all deeply flawed, unique, and beautiful. We are all enough just as we are.
Love what you do, do what you love
In a nutshell you need to LOVE what you do and do what you LOVE, especially if you are running your own business!
If you don’t, it’s time to sit up and assess WHY.
- Why has the love gone wandering?
- Is it you, what you are doing, your clients?
- Think about why you started your biz initially. Are you still living up to your purpose, your vision?
- Or maybe you’re compromising yourself somehow?
The good news is it ‘aint the end of the world! It’s never too late to make a change, tweak things, sack a bad client, or shut up shop. After all, your health and happiness is worth so much more!
Chasing your dreams isn’t easy – but it’s worth it
I’ve been a bit up and down lately and with so much happening it’s easy to slip back into old thinking patterns; ‘I’m jinxed’, ‘why me’, ‘I just want to sleep the day away’, ‘poor me another glass of wine’. It’s SO easy. It’s even easier to think ‘I give up!’, which to be honest with you is how I’ve felt at certain points throughout the day over the last few weeks. Imposter syndrome is something I also battle daily (‘I’m not good enough’ hmmmm), as is the thought ‘What the hell am I doing?’
But deep down I hold on tight to my positivity and faith that things will work out and that I am doing the right thing by continuing to fight my anxiety, by breaking free and doing what I love, and in helping the man I love (and recently married) pursue his dreams so we can live a peaceful life we love!
What I’m trying to say is that it’s not easy chasing your dreams, and that even though I may seem to have my shit together, underneath the social media presence, blog and photos, it’s a hard slog and I’m still just finding my way. I value people who are authentic, and so I thought it was important to share this with you, not because I want you to be my cheer squad, but because I want you to know that – if this is how you feel – there are people like you out there.
Thank you for being you and thank you for allowing me to share, and for reading, me.
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