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Have you ever felt slightly uneasy but weren’t sure why?

Have you ever had a gut feeling that something just wasn’t right? Have you ever thought that there might be an easier or better way to do something? Or have you ever felt slightly uneasy but were unsure why?

From the moment we are born, we face constant pressure to do things the right way and to not make mistakes.

This is generally dictated by societal expectations or by someone superior to us—whether it be via the teacher’s big red pen in school, a scolding from our parents or a displeased look from a boss. Regardless, we are encouraged to get things right or to do things in a certain way.

In most cases, this helps us determine what is right and wrong, and suggests there’s a sense of order: Do bad things, go to jail. But as we enter adulthood and go on to university, the workforce, enter relationships, vote…well, the lines between ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ become muddier.

“…Seeking the truth is sometimes like chasing a rabbit through the underbrush. As you approach, it darts away from you. At any given moment, you’re not sure exactly where it is. But you do gain certainty about where it isn’t. That knowledge is useful; it matters”. – Genership 1.0: Beyond Leadership Toward Liberating the Creative Soul, David Castro

Have you ever had a gut feeling that something just wasn’t right? Have you ever thought that there might be an easier or better way to do something? Or have you ever felt slightly uneasy but weren’t sure why?

That’s your intuition, your street smarts, your inner guru sending you a message. Whether it be in the form of butterflies in your belly, alarm bells or a big red flag, sometimes something just doesn’t feel…right! It’s in those moments that we have a choice. We can choose to face what is making us feel uneasy, to interrogate it and see what is really going on or we can choose to ignore the feeling.

None of us like feeling uneasy, and most of us don’t like confrontation, but the ability to turn and face our discomfort and to question what is going on— whether it be internally or face to face with someone—is essential to holding ourselves and others accountable, and to making change and progress.

“To know what is not right, what doesn’t work can be an important part of making progress, of moving toward the truth. Some of the greatest discoveries are through trial and error…” — Genership 1.0: Beyond Leadership Toward Liberating the Creative Soul, David Castro

Life is a series of lessons from which we can all learn and grow from.

We can either choose to trust our intuition or to ignore it completely. One of my own lessons learned has been to question what I see and hear. To question everything. It’s not because I’m a disbeliever, it’s because I acknowledge that everything we see and hear is tainted with the viewpoint of someone else. In order to get to the bottom of what is really going on, you need facts, and you need to interrogate those facts. Perhaps that’s why I ended up in a career of Program and Project Governance. The drive for transparency and accountability was ingrained! It’s also why I left that career.

What is a major lesson you have learned?

 

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  • Muriel
    September 17, 2014 at 11:14 pm

    The lesson I have learned is to trust my creative side more. I have spent decades listening to what I should do and how I should do it. Well, I am listening to my inner voice now, and feeling all the better for it…

    • Janine Ripper
      September 18, 2014 at 8:46 pm

      Isn’t it amazing!

  • Roy A. Ackerman, PhD, EA @ Cerebrations.biz
    September 19, 2014 at 7:41 pm

    Ah, the “Trust, but verify” philosophy… It’s a good one- some of us start being adherents early on, others later.
    It’s why I always seek out primary sources. Because that is one way to remove the filter (bias, BS, tainting, etc.) that is the gauze through which many of us examine our worlds.

    • Janine Ripper
      December 20, 2014 at 8:01 am

      It’s amazing how many people DON’T seek out primary resources – in this age especially! I’m glad people like yourself still do!

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  • Free Like Water
    October 28, 2014 at 7:10 am

    I love the quote about truth being like a rabbit!
    Having recently learned that I’m an INFJ according to the Meyer’s-Briggs Type Indicator, I now know that Intuition is my dominant function–my greatest strength. “Trusting feelings” (aka intuition) was highly frowned upon in my family–no wonder I became so depressed!
    Over the last few years, I have been trying to exercise these skills again, but am often discouraged because I can’t connect with my feelings. I’ve often said that I have no idea what I like or want; that all I know is more and more what I *don’t* want.
    Perhaps I am much closer to the truth than I realize! 🙂

    • Janine Ripper
      December 20, 2014 at 8:03 am

      I only just found your comment – weird! But I think you are definitely onto something. Knowing what you don’t want is the key. You are a lot closer then you realised!

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