Now we are married, how can we keep our relationship fun and intriguing? What tiny things can we do every week, or even every day, to keep things exciting and make sure we have marital bliss?
After being together for 10 years I’d be the first to admit that D and I are pretty darn comfy with each other.
Long gone are the days of tear-each-others-clothes-off passion after a wild night out dancing, or whisking each other out on an impromptu or even planned date to a new bar or restaurant. Oh no, these days we love nothing more than to snuggle on the couch in front of the TV with the pooch squished up against our legs.
Like most relationships, romance, dates, sex all moved to the end of the list of priorities behind work, bills, food, kids and more bills. Ok then, and there’s The Game of Thrones.
And then we started planning our wedding
Wedding planning for us was a lot of fun, really romantic, and even though you can’t help but be swayed by what other people want or expect when planning a wedding, we made a vow to ourselves (before our other vow) to make sure that we did what we wanted to do the way we wanted to do it, and to most of all have fun doing it.
Having been together for so long and being older than other couples who decided to get hitched, it was probably easier for us to stick to our guns and make sure that our special day was about us – a celebration of us a couple and as people. Great news is we did just that and the day turned out better than expected with the experience bringing us even closer together.
After we got hitched in January and all the buzz of planning a wedding together and the celebration had worn off, I got to thinking ‘what now’.
I’ve always been a sucker for traditional games, so these Marital Bliss Cards for Couples jumped out at me as a belated Valentines gift and so I thought we’d give them a go. Perfect for people with a lot on their minds and in need of some quick inspiration, each card suggests a simple mission, strategy or even reward when you successfully do something. We cracked them open this weekend and it was fun. I can actually see us using them often, and even creating our own once we’ve worked through all the cards.
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And then there was this Rememory Card game. I love reflecting so this was something I thought would be a cute way for us to get to know each other better by sharing personal memories. As it turns out this game confused D (could have been the added combo of being a man and drinking beer) but I know the game will work a treat for me as a box of writing prompts!
Just because we are married doesn’t mean we need to stop ‘dating‘. To keep that relationship fire in our belly, excitement and love, why not keep dating each other?
After 10 years together plus a recent marriage, I am STILL a strong believer in date nights. Even if it’s an intimate dinner by candlelight at home, fish and chips on a blanket watching the sunset by the beach, an impromptu road day trip, or a night out at the movies. The ideas are almost endless.
Finally, D is a big foodie and he’s always on the hunt for nice dishes to embrace his inner chef and ‘plate up’ all fancy like. And, obviously, I don’t mind eating most of what he plates up (unless it involves offal), so I’m always a willing ‘victim’. I found this slate cheese board which I thought would make a wonderful gift and inspire him to progress his food dream. I was worried it would arrive in pieces since it was coming all the way from Brooklyn BUT it arrived perfectly boxed up and is just gorgeous. I just love the added touch of the soapstone chalk to add little messages on to the board, which as it turns out is suitable to plate up more than just cheese 🙂
Regardless of ‘what next’ I’m positive we are going to have fun on our next chapter together as a married couple. I’m sure our marriage will be dotted with little surprises and treats along the way to keep things fun and exciting, with large moments of comfortability of course, as we both still love the couch and The Game of Thrones (among other awesome shows).
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