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Screw New Years Resolutions. Live for the Now Instead!

 

Screw New Years Resolutions. Live for the Now Instead!

As the years zoom by, sometimes I question how much I can take in a year, and how much one year can serve up.

Sometimes I even wish for a year to hurry up and finish as the next year is bound to be better!

This year has thrown almost everything at me, and that’s me being cautious as I don’t want to lay out a challenge to 2016. I mean death, illness, sick-almost-dying pets, unemployment, financial stress, work, overwork, stress, success, love, wedding planning and more. I’m actually surprised I’m still standing.

When I gave up new years resolutions a few years ago I finally realised that life should be treasured. That every moment should be valued. I mean, why waste it wishing for the next year to be better when we can spend it living in the moment and accepting it for what it is, with highs and lows, laughs and tears, joy and sorrow, and more.

So screw new years resolutions.

That’s what I say. They have no place in my life anymore, and neither should they in yours. I mean, how long do they last? What short-term stress, adrenalin or regret do they cause? Have you ever stuck to one?

I’ve wasted so much time. I refuse to do it anymore!

I still take antidepressants daily. I still struggle – almost hourly – with anxiety. At times I still feel like the world is against me. I mean, my fiancé has been unemployed for 7 months. For a man that’s shit. And he has insomnia. That’s fucked up! Adding to that, over the last month I’ve just realised I stop breathing multiple times in my sleep. No wonder we sleep so badly together and we’re always fricken exhausted! But still, we go on because we choose to. We go on because we still choose to hope and dream… on top of living every day, hour and minute as we can.

In the moment, that’s how we should be living. I mean, every year will include ups and downs. Highs as well as lows. Good health and illness. As every year passes it is guaranteed to include shitty stuff as well as things that make you smile and cackle. There will be good days and bad. There will also be mediocre. It’s all about your state of mind.  Your chosen outlook. The way you choose to live your life.

My life has been so much more enjoyable, positive and regret-less for it.

And positive. It’s been so much more positive, even with the shitty stuff. Sometimes I surprise myself at how optimistic and positive I am when compared to how I use to be… sad, negative, glass half empty, depressed. It’s comforting to truly realise I have changed. I did it. I actually kicked 20 years of on-and-off depression in the ass. Gosh, looking back 5 years ago, well, I don’t think I could have done it then. I also quit my career in project management after so many years of talking about it [Finally, I hear some people say].

I now make the choice to live each year according to a theme

Last year,  it was wellness. I was partly successful aside from moments where I forgot to focus on my overall health and wellbeing (sidetracked by the lure of money/prestige/excitement/alcohol).

And the theme for this coming year? Well, I’m focussing on health, wedding and family. At the moment this is sitting really well with me. Of course, one of them will be crossed off my theme list in January – kinda cheating? Maybe!

What about you? Do you make and break new years resolutions, or do you stick to them? Or do you take a different approach to life? Do share!

 

  • Marie
    December 18, 2015 at 7:38 am

    I’m with you, screw ’em! You simply do the best you can everyday. And guess what, sometimes you don’t because you simply can’t. You’ve got to just ride the crazy roller coaster that is life 🙂

    • Janine Ripper
      December 23, 2015 at 5:39 pm

      Exactly. And that is perfectly okay!

  • sue
    December 18, 2015 at 9:20 am

    I agree Janine we sometimes set unrealistic resolutions and then feel bad because by end of January they have gone out of the window. Better to try to be happy and contented I say. #FridayReflections.

  • Leanne@crestingthehill
    December 18, 2015 at 9:32 am

    I think 2016 is going to be a great year for you Janine and I’m all for not bothering with resolutions – why do anything that has the potential to set you up for failure or self criticism. My plan is to live each day as it comes and enjoy the ride. Looking forward to all the wedding photos soon!

    • Janine Ripper
      December 23, 2015 at 5:40 pm

      Exactly. It’s great to meet people with like minds! And yes, of course, photos will be coming soon!!

  • Sandy Mangis
    December 19, 2015 at 11:18 am

    Janine, What a post. and i thought my last two years were bad. My husband was diagnosed with cancer, going through Chemo and Radiation. My Mother has Stage 4 Dementia, I found out when my Aunt had a stroke that i was the one on her will. and to end the year I broke my hand and now having to use my other one is a challenge.

    I am glad to see that you are strong and I want you to know we all make it through. I too gave up resolutions. Just read my post for why, a friend told me that goals should be strong enough that they pull you like a magnet so you can make it through anything.

    Check out my page for your boyfriend. It is a growing industry that he might enjoy.

    Have a blessed Christmas.
    Sandy

    • Janine Ripper
      December 23, 2015 at 5:41 pm

      Thanks so much Sandy. Your comment meant a lot as I had a rough week and was a bit down and out and your comment lifted me a bit and helped me push through. I’ve checked out your page and will investigate more…

  • Mackenzie Glanville
    December 20, 2015 at 9:42 am

    What a year! So glad Kahlua has got such a fighting spirit She takes after her mumma! Thank you for this year, supporting me and working with me, and may your days always be filled with love and a few laughs thrown in!

    • Janine Ripper
      December 23, 2015 at 5:42 pm

      Thanks lovely 🙂 She does I guess! And you’re welcome and likewise!

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