At one stage in my life I was so encompassed by anger that I set myself on a path to self-destruction. And then one day I woke up.
To be honest, I can’t actually remember what triggered the wake up call – although I know I’ve had a shit load of them (wake up calls, that is).
I think it was partly related to getting older and wiser, as well as travelling the world, which really helped to open my eyes. It made me see that there was just so much to life, and so many reasons to live for!
Anger is such a terrible feeling. I got angry a few weeks ago, for the first time in ages, and it was horrid. My stomach was all in knots, I felt like my head was going to explode, I couldn’t think straight or control what I was saying – everything I had planned to say went out the window. I felt dizzy and sick to my stomach to be honest.
So I went for a walk. I went for a LONG walk. I walked, and I breathed through it, and an hour later I was a lot more centred, calm, and…I didn’t cry. My stomach was also a lot more relaxed, thank goodness.
I hate being angry. It’s one of my least favourite things, because it effects me physically, and it can make me quite sick. I’m also an anxiety freak, so I tend to mull over things really intensely for what seems like forever.
I see so many people who are becoming increasingly angry and bitter in this world, or who have just given up. It really saddens me, because I really do believe that we can all choose to either let anger and bitterness eat away at us from the inside out, or choose to rise above, let it all go, and become the person we were always meant to be.
We can also choose not to judge others, because, to be honest, one of the biggest root causes of anger is judgment, be it as a result of jealousy, unhappiness, misinterpretation, confusion, stress, history, Facebook envy…
No, releasing anger doesn’t mean that we accept the bad things that have been done…because people do do some really shitty things.
Releasing anger simply means that we are not empowering others by allowing them to effect us negatively. That we are in control of how we feel and how we react.
The next time you feel that little judgmental or angry feeling creeping up inside of you, take a step back (mentally or physically or both!), take a few deep breaths, and analyse why you are feeling that way…is there any other way you can look at the situation? Is there any other way to handle it? Can you see the situation from the other persons perspective?
It doesn’t mean that you necessarily agree with them…it just means that you accept where they are coming from, and that that is enough – because we all have our own filters of the world – whether they be rose-coloured glasses, or some other shade.