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How do you know when it’s time for a change?

They say “a change is a good as a holiday” but how do you know when it's time to make a change? How do you know its the right time to chuck in whatever you are doing to move on to something else?

They say “a change is a good as a holiday” but how do you know when it’s time for a change?

How do you know it’s the right time to chuck in the towel and move on to something else?

There’s nothing worse than whiling away your precious hours in a place you don’t like or in doing something you don’t LOVE.

Sister, I’ve been there…a few times at that!

And if you found yourself nodding frantically in response to any of those questions, I need to tell you it really is time you sat down to have a big think about your situation.

There’s nothing worse than dragging yourself through the hours, days and weeks for what? A pay cheque? Stability? Expectation?

If you don’t LOVE what you do, if you can’t wait to get out of the office every day, if you’re bored and numbing out on booze, food, or something else, then it’s time for you to get out there and do something that stimulates you a lot more (in a healthy way!) be it a new hobby, job or a totally different career!

And if you are falling back on the time old excuses ‘I’m too old’ or ‘I can’t do anything else’ – well, we seriously need to talk because you are never too old, and you can do anything you set your mind to!

You really can! I’m living, breathing proof of that!

We all get caught up in our stories.

In fact, most of us believe we ARE our stories, but it’s when those stories take on a life of their own, and our lives become one we didn’t want, that we start to meet problems.

BUT if you focus your mindset on creating a NEW reality, a reality where YOU are in charge. After all, every change begins with a decision and a single step in a new direction.

So here’s an exercise I’ve put together to help you start figuring things out.

 


Before you start, grab yourself a gorgeous notebook (A3 size is great!), some lovely paper, and some fabulous pens in lots of glorious colours – this will make the process so much more enjoyable!


 

Okay, let’s make a start by asking you some questions.

But first things first…

This exercise may make you feel slightly uncomfortable but promise yourself that you will answer the questions as honestly as possible as that’s the only way you will make progress!

Does Mondayitis set in on a Sunday? Why can’t you drag yourself out of bed in the morning?

What is making you feel like this?

Is it:

  • the morning commute (too long, too busy?),
  • the place you work,
  • the people you work with,
  • your boss,
  • your lengthy to-do list,
  • you are just plain bored,
  • you’re being bullied,
  • your ‘job’ is dissatisfying / tedious / boring / stressful
  • you are being asked to do something, or being encouraged to do things, that just don’t sit right with you,
  • you feel like you don’t have a purpose,
  • work has become your life leaving little time for anything else,
  • you’re concerned about something in the future,
  • you just don’t know, or
  • something else?

Now ask yourself the following questions:

  • What have you done to try to improve things?
  • What is going well for you at the moment?
  • What do you enjoy?
  • What is missing?
  • Do you need a holiday?
  • Can anything in your current situation be improved or changed?
  • Can you ask for help?
  • Is it time to for a change, be it team, job roles, or the job itself
  • Are you doing what you love OR are you doing what you are good at but not in love with?

And finally:

  • If money wasn’t an option, what would you do?
  • If you had all the time in the world, what do you see yourself doing?
  • If you didn’t have to answer to anyone, what would you do?
  • If you had 50% more confidence, what would you be doing?
  • Quickly list 5 things you could do to move yourself forward one step.

By now you’ll have more clarity over what the crux of the issue is, as well as some ideas on how to make some improvements. And if you don’t, that’s okay. Hopefully this exercise has helped you to flesh out how you are feeling and why, which is a big step in the right direction!

Think about the life you are living?

  • Who is the main ‘character’ in your life? Is it you, or is it your kids, partner, boss, your parents, or someone else even ?
  • Did you consciously create the life you are living, or has someone, or something else shaped it?
  • How would you write the next chapter in your story if you could?
  • Now do yourself a favour and actually spend some time actually WRITE the next chapter in your story. Put pen to paper, fingers to keyboard, and WRITE!

To give you a helping hand, here’s my special gift to you. It’s called Finding Your Why, and it’s a workbook to help you continue your journey of self-discovery and self-reflection.

 

Finding your why

What are your priorities in life?

 

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