Turning 46 threw me a bit of a curveball.
I’d planned to handle it with grace, but my 46th birthday ended in overwhelm and tears, some unsolicited skincare critique (thanks, day spa lady. for the reminder to moisturise to prevent wrinkles ‘at my age’!), and me wanting to curl up in a ball.
Midlife crisis, anyone?
But let me tell you, things are looking up. A bit of R&R, a sprinkle of exercise, and some quality ‘me’ time later, and I’m feeling like a whole new person.
And you know what?
There were moments that shone bright. Joyful calls and conversations, flowers and messages that warmed my heart, not to mention cuddles from both hubby and Freya. Plus, a day at the spa day – a welcome break from everyday chaos.
This leads me to reflect on what I’ve learned in life so far at age 46 and what I’d tell my younger self if I had the chance.
Let’s dive into some life lessons, shall we?
1. Being good at something doesn’t mean it’s good for you.
Being good at something doesn’t automatically translate to a healthy, happy you. And guess what? You don’t have to keep on keeping on to please others or rack up gold stars.
This is something I learned the hard way during my project management days. I was an excellent project manager, and I was told as much. I worked hard and even won national project management awards. But behind the scenes, the stress and pressure was wearing me away. Anxiety, depression, burnout. I even watched colleagues succumb to the strain.
That’s when I hit the brakes and got out.
It was tough.
Unemployment, soul-searching, and a journey through the trenches. But here I am, with my own thriving business, feeling not just healthier but happier, too!
It’s about crafting a life that’s not just ‘good’ but one that’s healthier, happier, and aligned with my values and priorities.
2. Know your values.
Understanding your values is like having a compass in life. They serve as a guide, showing you what truly matters to you.
When you’re clear about your values, it helps you prioritise. You can make decisions based on what aligns with your core beliefs rather than being swayed by external influences.
Knowing your values also influences who you choose to surround yourself with. You’ll naturally gravitate towards people who share similar principles.
Living in line with your values brings a sense of purpose to your actions. It creates a harmonious flow in your life, where everything feels connected and authentic.
In essence, understanding and honouring your values leads to a more fulfilling and balanced life where you thrive, your well-being flourishes, and fulfilment is not a distant destination but a companion.
3. It’s okay not to have it all figured out.
We often hear the advice to “find your passion” as if it’s a mystical treasure hidden in the depths of our being, waiting to be discovered.
The truth is, it’s okay not to have it all figured out, so don’t get so hung up on the pursuit of an elusive passion.
Instead of anxiously searching for a single defining passion, embrace the adventure of exploring new things, joyfully taking on diverse challenges and finding purpose in whatever it is you do.
Life is a journey, and passions evolve over time. Your path to discovering your passions can be as dynamic and beautiful as life itself.
4. Embrace life’s uncertainties
Sometimes, things don’t go to plan, no matter how hard you try.
That can be inconvenient, upsetting, and stressful.
But it’s also okay.
Embrace life’s uncertainties.
Learn to breathe through it, let things go and roll with it. The less you try to control things, the easier things will flow, and sometimes, the results will surprise you!
5. Discover your unique learning style and embrace it.
Understanding how you learn best is a game-changer. We all have our unique styles, and recognising yours can make a world of difference.
For me, it’s always been about hands-on learning (a kinaesthetic learner), which is why I struggled so much at university and why I find online learning challenging. I also have ADHD, so a pre-recorded online course generally won’t do anything for me unless it’s super engaging and interesting. That’s where the importance of engagement comes in – if it’s not interactive and interesting, I’m out.
Knowing this about myself means seeking out opportunities for hands-on experiences whenever possible. It’s not just a preference; it’s a key to unlocking my full learning potential.
6. Skincare wisdom.
One of the simplest acts of self-care is protecting your skin from the sun’s rays with extra care for your face, décolletage, and hands.
As a redhead with loads of freckles and sun damage, I wish I’d been more consistent with applying sunscreen than I have been. Today, I do so every day.
So, whether it’s a bright summer day or an overcast afternoon, make it a habit to smooth on that sunscreen. Your skin will thank you in the long run.
What about you?
What’s one invaluable life lesson that has left a lasting mark on you?
I’d love to hear your reflections and stories. Drop me a comment below!
